Why do our resolutions so often fail? Here are some personality types to help you see where I am coming from:
THE GOALIE - GOALS ARE TOO LARGE
Bold statements such as exercise regimens, large weight loss targets in a short time frame, career changes take organisation and instant commitment. Also, there are many factors which can affect the results. For example, exercise regimens need to be planned, achievable and enjoyed. Very often people launch into an exercise and because they ache or hurt the next day, or struggled with fitness levels, they postpone sessions so their regimen has already failed. Weight loss can be the same; big weight loss goals in a short time frame can be unreasonable and easily fail.
SET A SMALL REALISTIC GOAL
THE DREAMER - GOALS CAN BE VAGUE
Very often people make sweeping statements, such as ‘I want to be fitter’ or ‘I want to see my friends more’ or ‘I want to travel more’.
These are actually vague, undefined and therefore difficult to plan and achieve.
Goals should be definite and planned, with clear guidelines and boundaries. If you see your resolution as a project you have to achieve, and you know what is it, you are much more likely to achieve the end result you want.
BE PRECISE, CLEAR AND HAVE A TIME FRAME.
THE DITHERER - YOU ALLOW DISTRACTIONS TO HOLD YOU BACK
This is a self limiting behaviour, which can be used to enable you to fail. That sounds bizarre doesn’t it. However, many people will use ‘something or someone’ to enable them to ‘not’ do what they should be doing. For example, people say ‘oh once I get in from work I am too tired to do anything else’; the answer to that is to do ‘the something’ on your way home from work!
DON’T LET DISTRACTIONS, THINGS OR PEOPLE BE THE REASON FOR YOU TO FAIL. FINE TUNE YOUR USE OF TIME.
THE BUSY BEE - BAD TIME MANAGEMENT
Are you guilty of over stretching yourself, so your plans fail? Often people make resolutions which are grand and too large for their lifestyles. Life’s trials and tribulations can interrupt our goals, the skill is keeping on track, keeping focused and not reverting back to THE DITHERER above.
BE REALISTIC, DON’T’ UNDERESTIMATE COMMITTMENT